Today, I was given a pamphlet explaining how, based on my approximate age and gender, I was selfish, ungrateful, promiscuous, and condescending towards others; each of which was an accusation supposedly justified through Biblical quotes.
I’m not usually one to harp on religious arguments, but to make such accusations through such broad generalizations because I am a female and in my early twentyies, is, in my mind, a poor example of what a Christian should be.
Now, I told that woman that while I may still be in college, my parents are not paying for it, because of their financial situation. Instead, I am working about twenty hours a week for my own spending money. The reason they aren’t paying for it? Not because they don’t love me, but because, financially, it is not a feasible option.
I am also in the process of planning a wedding, which, in my case, demonstrates that I am in a committed relationship - whether or not I’ve had premarital sex is frankly business between myself and God. I’m not asking for help with funding the wedding, but instead exploring more cost-effective options, because I just don’t like putting others out.
I also told her that I do my best to not judge others based on their age, sex, and appearance, though, admittedly, it isn’t always easy. However, I have not stooped down to such a level as she.
I don’t think she was really interested in what I had to say, because she shook her head at me and then continued passing out the pamphlets. It’s a shame, when in this case, as many others, the Biblical word is used to shut down others and marginalize them without knowledge of one’s particular situation.